Dating scene: Assessing the game and the players involved

The Dating Game

I get this over and over and over again in my professional practice. Women, who are otherwise intelligent and logical beings become irrational and unrealistic and anxiety ridden when the object of their affections becomes ambivalent, or worse, uninterested.

I am not talking about those in “long term” relationships. I am talking about those who are truly single and dating who don’t want to give a relationship time to grow or develop naturally, or don’t allow the male to take the “reigns” so to speak, of the masculine energy role (the initiator) and jump the gun in oh so many ways.

The advice that I give over and over and over again, which VERY few follow, is to remove their energy and attention AWAY from the gentleman who is behaving in a distant manner. This means, don’t call him up, don’t text him, don’t stalk him online, don’t invite him out……….the female (at the dating stage) must allow the male the time and the “room” to decide whether or not he wants to take this further, which is not on the same schedule as the female.

Females tend to decide very quickly that they want to be involved. They may have just flirted with a gentleman and they will call me and ask “is this the guy that I am going to marry”. Although the cards will show if there is a POTENTIAL for a long term relationship, if you have just met a guy this weekend and he hasn’t even asked you out yet, this question is based on suppositions galore and it is not likely that you will get a very accurate answer.

Tarot Readings are not set in stone. They will tell you what is LIKELY to happen if you remain on the same path, continue with the same types of actions, into the future. Any changes in YOUR behavior change the outcomes of the situation…..Tarot Readings are a living, breathing, metaphysical wonder and change as your actions change.

A more apropos question at the first stages of infatuation would be “will he ask me out” and then after a date or so “will we develop a relationship” perhaps after 6-9 months of exclusive dating….”will he consider marrying me”…….the questions have to be realistic in comparison to the situation in order to have any sense of accuracy.

If you want to be the “feminine” energy in a relationship with a “masculine” male, as archaic as it may sound, you must allow him to set the pace, if it is not in your nature to allow this, then you may be a “masculine” energy female, or if you are truly “feminine” energy, you need to

Debate on the war in Iraq

Edwin Starr asked the question, “War: what is it good for?” The musical response was “absolutely nothing”. The song was written while the Viet Nam war raged and the next question could be “War: what have we learned?”. Unfortunately the musical response would be “absolutely nothing except make sure that the war is fought by volunteers and make sure that only the troops and their families make any sacrifices.

The 5th anniversary of beginning the Iraq War is just about here.

What good things that have happened as the result of the war? The good is listed here in no particular order. Unfortunately the good things listed may be of a transitory nature to be replaced by other even more difficult problems that will need to be resolved as time and circumstances go on.

1) Saddam Hussein is dead and the people in the country that were his enemies may be safer.

2) We are almost metaphysically sure that there are no weapons of mass destruction in Iraq.

3) Rightly or wrongly some people believe that establishing fronts against Al Queda in Iraq have lessened the threat to people in the United States.

4) There have been no additional scud missile attacks on Israel from Iraq.

5) The United States Military has made great strides in the development of drone airplanes that can keep pilots out of harms way. Military medicine has also made great strides in saving lives that previously would have been lost

6) If you believe in democracy the Shiites who are in the majority have a better chance at ruling the country.

7) We are developing methodologies to counter insurgencies and if you believe the military the strategy is working.

The Kurdish people in the north are safer and have become relatively prosperous.

Unfortunately, President Bush’s pronouncement of “mission accomplished” was premature, wrong and in retrospect could be restated “as precious little accomplished” except for an even more profound involvement in a area of the globe that has been embroiled in continuous conflict for many years.

These conflicts whether Arab/Israeli, Palestinian/Israeli, Israel/Lebanon, Iran/Iraq, Gulf War I and Gulf War II, the continued insurgancy/civil war and now issues related to our occupation of Iraq the overall problems seem to be as intractable as ever and our presence in Iraq will continue for the seeable future and maybe longer.

Preemptive war: what is good for? It is no wonder that the American voter wants change.